Zora Neale Hurston wrote in her book, Their Eyes Were Watching God, “Love is lak de sea. It’s uh movin’ thing, but still and all, it takes its shape from de shore it meets, and it’s different with every shore.”
There is no one size fits all for couples. As unique as each person is, every couple is even more so. You are your very own ecosystem. Creative and intuitive couples are just as unique as any other couple, and they can have a few more challenges than other types of couples. A few of their challenges may be, 1) trouble regulating emotions, 2) trouble slowing down, 3) high levels of reactivity, 4) a strong need for validation, and 5) a propensity for telling scary, negative stories about their relationship. Highly creative and intuitive people often grew up feeling very lonely trying to learn about themselves in a world biased for the logical and the linear. Often times they feel odd or alien.
Often times I see the pairing of a Warrior archetype with a Poet archetype. The warrior is great at sales, business, and entertainment. They are very passionate and they may have a diagnosis of ADHD. The poet is a great caregiver; they are emotional and sensitive (check out Elaine Aron’s ideas of the Highly Sensitive Person). In Imago we say the warrior is the maximizer and the poet is the minimizer.
These opposites find each other and because they were so lonely, at first the stars align. The couple feels like they FINALLY found someone who gets me. This deep sense of connection lasts for awhile. Like many couples this time periods ends and the only thing they can notice is their differences.